Alexis Jones Has An Unusual Approach to Sexual Assault Prevention. And It’s Actually Working

Hey, it’s Marie Forleo and you are watching
MarieTV, the place to be to create a business and life you love. And today you are in for something so special. You’re gonna meet one of my most badass
friends and you’re gonna hear about her crusade to change the culture of violence
against women. Alexis Jones is an internationally recognized
speaker, author, and activist. She’s the founder of I Am That Girl, an
organization helping over a million girls transform self-doubt into self-love, and most
recently ProtectHer, a program educating male athletes on the importance of respecting women. She’s one of Oprah’s Super Soul 100, Fast
Company’s Female Trailblazers, ESPN’s Pop Culture’s Top 10, and AOL’s makers. She’s hosted several shows on CBS, ESPN,
Fox Sports, MTV, and TLC, and has spoken at the White House, Harvard, Stanford, the United
Nations, Nike, Dell, Pepsi, and the Girl Scouts. Alexis Jones. Hi, lady. It’s been too long. Way too long. Which we’ve already established. Uh-huh. So happy that you made time to come talk today. I’ve been wanting to do this with you forevs. So let’s go back. Let’s go back to when you were 19 and you
were starting… You mean last year? Last year. Totally. I Am That Girl. This organization, what you’ve created is
just incredible. I want to hear, for anyone who doesn’t know,
a bit about the organization and what inspired you to launch it. Sure. Kind of our elevator pitch, if you will: a
badass version of Girl Scouts for college girls. And we just hit the 1.2 million girl mark,
which is super exciting. And just opened a chapter in our 24th country. So that’s kind of like the quick and dirty. Going back to 19. I feel like for a long time I had these like
really eloquent responses of like “I wanted to change the world for girls. Right?” We – that you do. That you’re like just young enough and just
naive enough to be like “why not me? Why not now?” But I think if, and especially with you. Like if I’m being really honest, I think
I was, one, going through a breakup. Right? Which just like sends you down that hole. Which is just like “who am I outside of
this person?” And I needed it. I think that was the truth was that, you know,
I grew up in Austin and with no money. And going to a really wealthy school. And I think I – for me that was like my
insecurity. Yeah. And then I go to USC, which is like that on
crack cocaine, right? As far as like wealthy. You know, I remember like pointing out girls
in my sorority and being like, “I’m pretty sure her dad owns Disney.” And like, you know, so I think I was hyper
insecure. I was going through a breakup, and I just
needed supportive girls that I could come and talk to them about the things that matter
with no judgment. And that’s kind of been the impetus. It started with six girls. I said we have a lot of conversations about
things that don’t matter: clothes and books and movies and gossip. And what if once a week we had conversations
about things that did matter. And those six girls showed up, and six meetings
later we had 347 girls. So it started with six, now we’re at 1.2
million. And I think the truth is girls need girls
probably more than ever right now. It’s just having those relationships. I know for me it’s always been instrumental
in my life, but as I get older it becomes more and more vital. And it’s not like I need a ton. I just need a handful, just a few people,
that I can call at anytime and say anything to and absolutely know it’s a safe space
and that I won’t be judged. Yeah. And, I mean, I think that’s probably a woman
thing and a human thing. Right? And I feel like the adulting, like adulting
is so hard. And it’s like the older that we get the
more you’re like – you just want someone that you’re gonna rattle off something ridiculous
and they’re gonna be like, “I totally get it.” Yeah. And suddenly in that moment of like the simple
phrase like “me too.” And I Am That Girl on social media that does
“Me Tuesdays.” And the whole idea is like every Tuesday that
you’re reminded that oh, my God. We’re all going through it in some way. And when you have someone who just says like
“ah, I know. And I don’t have to understand exactly what
you struggle with and I don’t have to have the exact insecurity per se, but you’re
not alone.” And I think that that feeling of not being
alone is probably the thing that we as human beings gravitate towards. Okay. So coming out of this world of girl empowerment,
now you’ve started a new organization, ProtectHer, and I am so excited about this. Tell us about what this is and what inspired
you to start and shift direction. Sure. So I’ve been doing girl empowerment for
a decade. We’re actually about to celebrate our 10
year anniversary for I Am That Girl, which is crazy. Congratulations. Thank you. And three years ago Trent Dilfer, who’s
a commentator for ESPN, won a superbowl with the Baltimore Ravens, and Yogi Roth, who’s
the face of the PAC 12 network. Two really good friends. So they called and they said, “Hey, Jones. Is there any way that you can come and give
a talk to the top 18 quarterbacks in the country on the importance of respecting girls?” And I remember my initial reaction, and I
always laugh, because you know with girls it’s like we’re like overqualified for
something and we’re like, “I don’t know. I just – I feel like I need more experience.” And then you have some like 19 year old dude
and you’re asking about like a job and he’s like, “Please, I could totally be CEO.” And you’re like what? They just have this like built in confidence
where they’re just like “fake it till you make it. I’ll figure it out.” And they called and they said can you come
and give this talk? And I said why me? Like you should invite some dad or some dude
that they respect. And, by the way, I have a wedding and I have
all these things and I don’t have time to prep for it. And they were really adamant. And they said “no, it’s important.” I had worked at Fox Sports and ESPN and was
kind of this hybrid. That’s why like me being in a dress and
dolled up is like very foreign to me. Like I feel very girly right now, which is
wonderful. But I’m normally in jeans, t-shirt, trucker
hat. And so in that moment they said “no, it’s
important. Because, one, we actually think the conversation
needs to happen from a girl.” Which I just thought that in itself was interesting. And the second thing is they said “no one
knows football better than you. So you coming in, you’re like this perfect
hybrid of you’re not like a mom coming in. Like you’re the cool older sister and you
can talk ball with them, but you can also, with this experience of having worked with
girls for 10 years, you can come in and have this conversation with this experiential knowledge.” So I came in and immediately I called my husband,
who’s – turns out to be, one, my first investor for ProtectHer, which is kind of
grossly adorable. And, two, the ultimate cheat sheet, because
he played professional basketball for nine years. So I called him and I said, “Hey, I just
got asked to give this talk to these top quarterbacks and what’s your suggestion?” And he said, “first off, if you’re talking
to 18 year old boys, when you say sexual assault prevention, literally their brain doesn’t
get past sex.” Right? Like and they’re thinking about like the
hot sorority girls that they want to hook up with on campus. He said “so if I were you I would pull pictures
of their moms, their sisters, and their girlfriends from social media, and I would put it in your
presentation.” Which the first thing I thought was that’s
legitimately sketchy. Right? Is like you’re pulling – like you’re
a stranger showing up to this event and – and so sure enough, I did. And he said – because the truth is the minute
that they see their faces they’re gonna go from thinking about all the girls they
want to hook up with and have sex with to literally the only girls and women in their
life they don’t want anyone having sex with. And, again, I just did it as this favor, but
I showed up and I gave this talk. And what was crazy was I said one in four
girls, right, will be sexually assaulted on your college campus. And they kinda did the eye roll of like okay,
it’s this conversation. We’re the bad guys, right? And I said that means that it’s different
when it’s her. And I clicked the next slide. And I memorized all the names of the girls. And I said it’s different when it’s Lauren,
when it’s Danielle, and when it’s Marie, and when it’s – you know, and I started
going through all these different names. And all of a sudden even from a body language
standpoint these guys went from being like nonchalant, like heads back, eyes rolling,
to like sitting straight up in their seats. Because all of a sudden it activated a different
part of them. Right? It activated the protector inside of them. And I always say there’s a predilection
inside of male DNA. Like men are hardwired to protect. And so are women. And – protectors for all of us. But what I didn’t realize in that moment,
and I think that’s always the best. Right? When something happens organically and you’re
like, “Woah, this is a thing.” Was that when that aired on ESPN a week later
everything with Ray Rice came out. Wow. So the timing of it was just kind of a divine
moment. And overnight I was hired by division 1 locker
rooms all over the country. So I spent 220 days a year in locker rooms
for the past three years. So it became a thing. Which was, you know, tough love from a big
sister saying “I don’t know if you got the memo. It’s not cool actually to disrespect women
anymore. And let’s talk about your programming. Let’s talk about all these things of how
you’ve arrived at that place where that was ever acceptable.” So one of the things I think is so brilliant
about what has been born from your heart and from your interaction with all these young
men in these universities is the approach and the power of the jersey. Can you talk to us about that? Sure. I think that historically whenever you looked
at, you know, gladiator days. Right? It was like what makes a man a man? What makes a woman a woman? But in this context what makes a man a man? And it’s interesting because, you know,
the majority of little boys under the age of, you know, 10, when you ask them what do
you want to be when you grow up? They want to be some kind of athlete. Right? The way that we have positioned athletes specifically
in this country. And so they’re kind of these 21st century
gladiators of kind of this, you know, the physical dominance and the popularity that
often comes, the influence that comes with that jersey. And so putting it in the context of the power
of the jersey, which is the power of the Superman cape. Right? The symbolism, right? Of what that means. And so coming in and saying like “do you
have any idea how powerful you are?” And then really breaking down the concept
of the only difference between a superhero and a villain is who will you choose to serve? You know, do you serve yourself or do you
serve others? You know, do you fight for yourself or do
you fight for others? And I think coming in and presenting them,
again, with no judgment. Right? It’s just coming in and like challenging
the status quo and saying with this power what are you choosing to do with it? And I think for 18 year old boys to have someone
present them with the opportunity, and what comes with opportunity is awesome responsibility. And at least inviting them to participate
in what that responsibility looks like. I think it’s great too. It’s an invitation, not a confrontation. You know? We’re obviously talking about sexual assault
and violence against women right now. But even as a broader concept, the idea that
we have problems as a society, and then going to the very people who could help us solve
those problems and not pointing a finger or telling them they’re the problem, but saying,
“Hey, you could be the cure.” That was one of the most moving things to
me about understanding what you’re building with ProtectHer. Because who wants to be yelled at? Who wants to be told that they’re horrible
or that they’re wrong? And I just think it’s genius, the approach,
because it allows people to let their guard down a little bit and then step up and have
courage. Yeah. I mean, one of the things I always, you know,
preface with is I’m not a survivor of sexual assault. That means that my closest family members
are and eight out of my best girlfriends are. And so this isn’t – there’s not a nonchalance
about the issue. And kind of the beauty of coming from the
girl empowerment world and doing that for a decade is I always have a name and face
and story for every time people talk about girls in statistic form. Right? And we talk about like this pandemic level,
and we’re beyond pandemic level at this point as far as the sexual assault. And I always also preface with the fact that
the truth is, this isn’t a locker room problem. This isn’t a university problem. This is a systemic cultural problem, and violence
against women has existed since 5th century BC. And as recently as 1996, you know, and I don’t
know if you’re a Game of Thrones fan. Of course I am. Me too. And in every single episode, and that’s
what’s kind of blown my mind, in every single episode thus far, and I think we’re on – we’re
a little behind. So season four, season five, there’s been
some form of violence against women. Right? And it’s become so accepted, because historically
that was part of war. Right? And as recently as 1996 Amnesty International
put out this statement saying that for a long time rape within war was a byproduct. And not only a byproduct. They went as far as to say it wasn’t just
that. It was a strategy. Yes. And, I mean, as recently as like the late
90s that it was still a strategy. And so I guess I say that only to like put
parentheses around violence against women. This is something that has existed forever. And now we’re just in a position, especially
with technology and especially with social media, to be able to really amplify the truth
and the reality around it. Yeah. And start to change the conversation and enlist
men to help be part of the solution. Exactly. And, again, it was one of those things that
Brad was incredible insight on it. Right? Which is I’ve heard this conversation every
single time. And he was I think 6’9” when we were 16. Right? So he was an incredible athlete. They knew he was gonna be good at like 11. So he’s played competitive sports from the
time that he was 10, 11 years old. And he said “I’ve heard this conversation
so many different times. And he said and the truth is I always ended
up, as an alpha 6’9” male athlete, felt bad for being a dude.” And he was a good dude. You know? And he said the truth is 99% of guys in locker
rooms would never intentionally rape a woman like against her will as she’s screaming,
trying to, you know, get them off of her. And he said so one of two things. The only approaches he’d ever seen was one
of two things. They would either bring a survivor in who
would retell this horrific experience. And so, again, 99% of these guys are like,
“Oh, my God. I would never do that. So this isn’t relatable to me.” Right? Because I’m not that. Like what you’re describing would never
happen on my watch. If I walked in and saw it, like that would
never be acceptable. Or – and they shut down. Right? And it becomes unrelatable to them. Or they bring in an officer who says if you
do this, XY and Z, rape, that’s 14 years in prison. Again, “I would never do that, so this isn’t
a conversation that relates to me.” And so it was his kind of brilliance of how
do you invite us into a conversation? Because also every dude wants to be a hero. You know, that’s also hardwired. There’s a predilection for that. So the truth is that so much of even – and
I’m absolutely a feminist. But part of the feminism movement to exclude
and/or to make men feel excluded I think was and is… Not the answer. Not the answer. Yup. No, that’s why I was really moved when I
saw the documentary and I saw all of the footage from what you’re doing and the impact it’s
having. It’s really incredible. I’m curious. You’ve been on the road now for three years
talking to young men 220 days a year. Have you seen any changes from day one through
now in terms of their receptivity? Is there more resistance? Like, what’s it like? Well, one, I just think because we’ve had
so much press coverage that it’s just so much easier. Like it’s just – you’re not having to
explain what you’re trying to do. I’m not – my team isn’t having to say
like, “No, it’s different. I promise. And these are the reasons why.” And we’re not having to like differentiate
as much. Or sell as hard, probably. Or sell as hard. Although what’s crazy is our – my team
has never one time made an outgoing phone call. So you talk about power of word of mouth,
you know, when you talk about marketing you talk about having a brand or a product that
speaks for itself that you don’t have to pay a publicist to go out there and like try and
get you attention, that we’re not putting in all these phone calls. Because we’re like, trust me, you really
want this girl to come and speak to your team. It was head coaches giving head coaches my
phone numbers. Being like this is the first time we’ve
heard a speaker on this issue – one, I curse like a sailor. Right? So like f*** is my pause word. And, again, it’s like when it comes to football
the analogies I could use.  I remember one kid raised his hand and he
was like, “You know, know, I just – like am I a bad guy for like hooking up with a
girl?” And he was like trying to use this analogy
about bragging in the locker room about hooking up with this girl who was really drunk. And I paused for a second and I said, “Yeah,
it’s just kind of like, I don’t know, Roethlisberger like bragging about beating like the Lions
in ‘08.” And like there was this long pause and he
was like, “Oh, yeah. Okay.” And after the talk he came up and he’s like,
“I’m not gonna lie, you make a lot of sense.” You know? And so I think it’s kind of this combination
of being able to come in and speak their language and meet them where they’re at, again, with
no judgment, and simply say “we’ve never needed you as much as we need you right now. Can you be a part of this? Because up until now we’ve talked a lot
about you, but we haven’t really talked with you.” And I think that the shift I’ve seen has
been, one, just exponentially more interest. And it – because when it went on SportsCenter,
SportsCenter called and that was like game over. Right? That was like overnight it was like ring ring
ring. But also the NCAA within the past three years
as of last week just announced that it’s a mandatory policy now that schools invest
in some type of preventative education. That didn’t exist three years ago. Wow. And we’re seeing, you knw, bills being passed
around affirmative consent. I lobbied for one here in Texas. And so just seeing the support that before
it was, you know, banging on doors being like, “This issue matters. What can we do? You know, to make it better?” And now it’s like everyone’s on board. And now it’s like another army. Right? Of “put me in, coach. Like, tell me how – tell me what I can do
to support.” Tell me how I can get this into my kid’s
school or, you know, even athletes themselves saying I’m not gonna go to a school that
isn’t investing in, you know, educating me so that I don’t find myself, yeah, in a
sketchy situation. And/or that I don’t find one of my peers,
you know, one of my student athletes in a sketchy situation. That’s kind of been one of the more shocking
I would say over, you know, the past couple years is having top picks at universities
saying, “Great. I would love to come and play tennis at, you
know, whatever school. But I’m not coming to a school that isn’t
protector certified. I’m not coming to a school,” you know. And so seeing the athletes themselves take
the initiative to be like, “Woah, you know, I have sisters. I know how important this is. And I want good guys on my team, and I want
to be surrounded by people who edify me.” And I think that of everything has been like
the most inspiring is the athletes themselves saying “it’s not enough that, you know,
we have 150 million dollar, you know, annual budget. If you can’t find room, which is less than
4% of how much you’re paying our head coach,” that’s a compelling argument. And we haven’t seen a school say no yet. That’s really incredible. I think that that’s the – yeah. The exciting stuff. And so it is scalable now? Like is there a program? So you’re able to come talk. Do you have other people that you’ve trained? Or how is it working? Yup. So that’s what we’re working on right
now. Is we’ve identified a handful of other speakers
who I think are brilliant and different, and that’s what’s awesome is you need to hear
different kinds of stories. So we’re gonna have a short roster of people
that we’re able to send out. Because I always joke I’m not Santa. And I’ve been on the road so much that I’m
like trying to find a model where I’m not on the road over 200 days a year. And then as far as the program goes the good
thing is it’s turnkey. So you can literally go to the website, you
can, you know, put in your credit card information, put in your school’s information, and you
can at least get the four part program automatically integrated into every single locker room. Every single male sport as of right now. And then we’ll have different speakers as
options. So incredible. I’m so, so happy for you and so thankful
that you exist. And as I was listening to your story and as
I was going through everything I was thinking to myself. I’m like, “Gosh, Alexis and I met years
ago.” And it feels like you are so uniquely positioned
to help make this culture shift happen. So cool. So for anyone watching who wants to get involved
either with I Am That Girl or ProtectHer, where can they go? What can they do? Sure. I Am That Girl, just go to the website. And ProtectHer is spelled Protect So anyone who’s interested in either. And we give a portion of the proceeds of ProtectHer
to I Am That Girl, because they’re my babies. They’re your babies. Yeah. So we did an official partnership between
the two. Because I Am That Girl is predominantly girls
on college campuses, and ProtectHer right now is for college and high school boys. Amazing. Yeah, and that’s what’s also really cool. Seeing the symbiotic relationship that we
can’t continue to have conversations in silos with just girls or just boys. That this isn’t a women’s movement anymore. It’s a human movement. And I think it requires all of us. Yeah. It does. So one last question before we wrap up, and
then maybe go grab some tacos or something. So many folks in my audience are changemakers,
aspiring changemakers. For anyone that’s listening right now and
they feel like, “Oh, my goodness. What Alexis has been able to do and the impact
she’s been able to make, I want to do something like that.” Whether it’s in this particular universe
or it’s on another issue. Lord knows we have enough issues. We need brave people to step up and tackle
them. And they’re feeling overwhelmed like where
do I start? How do I get going? It feels so unattainable. What would you say to someone just starting
out? First off, that’s such a good question. Because I think in the world of inspiration,
right, it’s easy to be like “I’m so inspired by this person.” And then like you watch a, you know, you listen
to a podcast or you watch a video and you’re like, “That’s amazing. They’re amazing.” You know, but the truth is I think immediately
recognizing death by comparison. Right? So the minute that we’re looking at people
that we admire the most and, you know, the Elizabeth Gilbert’s of the world for me. The Brené Brown’s of the world for me. That I look and I’m like “oh, my gosh. Like six New York Times best sellers. Like, what’s that like? I want that life.” I think it’s, one, just halting long enough
to realize death by comparison of, you know, when I started I Am That Girl, like I said,
it started with six girls. So we oftentimes look at like point A and
then we look like point B that is like what would take a decade, right, to actually get
there. And we think that we’re gonna achieve it
within a year. So, one, just that recognition. And then this is a silly little technique,
but I learned it because I have like severe anxiety. I like get stressed out about everything. And one of my girlfriends says that stress
exists in like the reptilian brain. It’s that fight or flight. And she said so whenever you find yourself
of like analysis paralysis kind of thing where you’re like, “I have to make a decision. So many things,” and your brain goes into
that reptilian side, she said if you literally start counting backwards from 10. 10, 9, 8, 7, 6, 5, 4, 3, 2, 1. Out loud and you pause long enough, it actually
brings your consciousness back to a logical place inside your brain where you can make
good decisions and you’re not operating from that, “I don’t even know where to begin.” So that’s like a tiny trick that my friend
taught me. And I think as far as figuring out what to
do, like start somewhere. And if that’s making a phone call to a friend
saying “I want some accountability around X, Y, and Z.” If that’s putting a list of five people
down who are gonna be like your tribe who are gonna help you figure out what you’re
passionate about. If it’s Googling and finding that local
shelter. Because we all want to do things in theory,
but Googling that local shelter and scheduling “I’m gonna go there on Thursday and see
if there are volunteer opportunities. Or I’m gonna put in a phone call.” I think taking like tangible action and scheduling
that action is pretty powerful. Is the first step. That was like 15 steps. But yeah. No, no, no. It’s great. Because I, you know, so much of what I do
and so much of what we do here on the show is I’m always, and my audience knows this,
it’s like insight without action is worthless. Same thing with inspiration. Inspiration without action is kind of worthless. So I love it. It is. It’s just about taking that first step. And I think another thing I would add to this
whole conversation about, you know, you see people, you see people making change in the
world, and you feel like “how do I ever get there?” You know, laying the comparison aside I think
it is taking that first step and not needing to have a whole plan. Because you’re gonna figure it out as you
go. It’s gonna change at every step of the way. Your vision and what’s possible and the
resources that come and the people that you meet. And it is, it’s like that amazing Martin
Luther King, Jr. quote about you have to take the first step in faith. You don’t have to see the whole staircase. Just take that very first step. And the resilience of “I can fail fast.” That’s always like I’m such a failure. Like people are often like oh, you know, you
can like reference these like professional accolades. And I’m like no, no. I just fail really fast. And I just try not to do that same one again. But, again, it’s that leap of faith of like
I don’t know what the next, you know, steps 2 through 150 are. But I know that step one is XY and Z. And it reminds me also of Indiana Jones. Yeah. I don’t know if you ever – I was a big fan. Yeah. But taking that leap of fain on the bridge
where you just have to like close your eyes and you’re like, “Please be there when
I…” and then you like take the step and you’re like, “Okay. Step one.” So yeah. Brilliant. Well, Alexis, thank you so much for being
you. I am one of your biggest cheerleaders. I adore you and I hope we’re gonna have
you back on and we’ll have more conversations in the years to come. Thank you, love. Same. Now Alexis and I would love to hear from you. So we covered a lot of ground today, but I
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42 thoughts on “Alexis Jones Has An Unusual Approach to Sexual Assault Prevention. And It’s Actually Working

  1. It is Tuesday already!?! Well dang! Thank you, Marie and team! This week just got better already! 😂

  2. I have a brother and a father. Both always complain that feminism is pushing away men and always making them the "bad guys." It is SO refreshing that you're making an effort to involve them in the movement. This is so great!! ♥
    Thank you, protectors! ♥

  3. Here's a great tip for sexual assault prevention: dress classy. Showing all your cleavage won't gain you any respect.

  4. Love how inclusive this is of men. That it is a human movement and we all need to be involved. That's a serious statement I hope many hear. P.S. As I was watching at the beginning, I was thinking "Ooooh, Blue Ocean!"

  5. What a woman! I've never heard of this amazing lady, I will now be following her! Great interview as always Marie – your guests and lines of questioning always make me THINK! 😀

  6. MIND-BLOWING! Yes I am inspired by this amazing woman and I will take action! this subject is so close to my heart (not a survivor either) and I do want to make a difference in the world. Thank you, Marie for having Alexis! Excellent interview. I am psyched! 🙂

  7. Such a great video, thank you for sharing these ideas and views! We are all in this together as many other things so we shall act together.

  8. I have always been turned off by feminism (I’m a woman, btw) because it seemed so exclusive and angry and judgmental. I love that this conversation is inclusive, and not pointing fingers at men. The only way this kind of culture can shift and change is with EVERYONE pitching in and moving forward together. I’m sorry I hadn’t heard of Alexis before today so I am so grateful you had her on your show!

  9. Love the points she makes about men being included. Villianizing men is not the answer. The good guys want to help make the world a better place for women too but often feel like they're not allowed in the conversation and that women hate them.

  10. Exactly what I needed this morning! I visited a local high school yesterday in an attempt to be a part of a bigger movement toward change in the education system!

  11. I want to know; for those of us that champion this work, what are we to do about preventing the ones who perpetuate sexual violence and other forms of violence, being male or female, that are in this movement?

  12. Also, when speaking in poverty stricken communities, i find that with the absence of fathers, females (mothers, aunties, grandma's, female friends, teachers, etc) are highly abusive and commit the defined forms of sexual assault. Than the males find it hard to respect women, in general, when do many are abusive to them. Have you had to address these issues?

  13. Excellent spin on the way to get guys to see the bigger picture – I escaped from a domestic abuse situation last year – unfortunately the guy admitted to having touched his sister and hurting animals and much more 8
    Has there been any focus on individuals amongst these groups that may be harboring more sociopathicpsychopathicnarcissistic traits that are known to compel such abusive and violent behaviour? My understanding is that such individuals are unable to be rehabilitated?

  14. Excuse me, please! Congratulations Mrs. Alexis! "..What you do makes a difference, and you have to decide what kind of difference you want to make." Great. i really appreciate it. Thank you so much, Forleo!! I Love ❤️ You so much. Powerful Woman from NYC. All my Love. [email protected] 🇱🇷❤️🇱🇷BRZ. Santos City.

  15. Love what Alexis is doing and loved this conversation! My biggest take away was to not only stand up for what you believe in but also to believe in yourself that you can be that change! Xxx

  16. The one thing I think that really resonated with me was ' death by comparison.' It's really hard to admire someone's work from a distance and know that you are inspired and want to be in the same place they are versus being prepared for your journey not theirs.

  17. Another week of great content as to be expected. This was great, I had not heard of Alexis before or her organizations, but wow – great work and education that her and her teams are putting out for the world. I really liked her comparison for superhero and villain and it just comes down to who you serve. Also, I liked what you said about an invitation to help vs pointing the finger etc. Thank you as always for sharing. I love learning something new here every Tuesday! Have a great day!

  18. La actitud feminista de alejar a los hombres, siempre ha sido un problema para nosotras, les hemos dejado el camino fácil para no intervenir, ni participar, ni asumir, a no tener voz, ni responsabilidad alguna en lo que se refiere a la violencia contra las mujeres y esta actitud se nota mucho en Latinoamérica, dónde el machismo lo propagan las mismas mujeres; al apartarlos seguimos manteniendo actitudes consideradas socio-culturales que no cambiarán en modo alguno, sin la participación de todos, ya que son temas de bienestar humano, no de un género en particular.

  19. Game of thrones fans rpz ❤
    That said, I love how she included men in the process. It's the most sensitive and sensible approach to women's protection I have ever heard. We need more people lile you both. Thanks for your humanity

  20. It’s definitely a message that needs to be heard. But the generalisation of men is pretty worrying. Not all men want to be heroes or sports stars. That’s such a stereotype.
    And the use of online hashtags has become a witch hunt that is in danger of losing the message of educating people.

  21. 'This isn't a women's movement anymore, it's a human movement.' Love that. Thank you for this interview.

  22. What an inspirational video Marie…Thank you so much! So much infor and wisdowm…Alexis, you rock! I´ve been to this place of "where do I start?" for so long…and you said everthing when you said "start somewhere". Only 2 words. thank you!!!!

  23. Awesome. “Excluding men is not the answer”. + Paradigm shift: “Not about you… let’s talk with you”! 🤗🙌👏❤️

  24. You know, good job on this, but still from all these talks, organizations, celebrities, events, trendy movements and so on are still all "how men should…" Haven't come across anyone yet, telling women how to behave towards man, giving women the illusion that no matter how they act or they can do no wrong towards them will always be the mans Responsability how they respond is a huge problem in this also, you bring the sister example, well my sister does not behaves and dresses like a hoe either, going around disrespecting everyone 'cause grrl power says I'm untouchable.

  25. As a new dad to an exciting, beautiful and confident 2-year-old girl, this gives me so much hope that she will be able to grow up and strive in this world. Thank you so much, Alexis and Marie, for everything you do.

  26. This was so inspiring! I am so proud of both of you! As a mother of two precious little guys and three equally precious daughters, I am teaching them all to be a part of the human movement….to advocate for one another, to empower each other with their words and actions. Brilliant. Thank you

  27. What resonated with me was Indiana Jones… not why you may think 😉 … but from taking a leap of faith and taking the first step into the unknown. You really ARE just that bit more confident when you are in your late teens / early twenties than when you are a 40(cough) something woman. Here's to the leap of faith and the next step 🙂

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