Tea Consent

If you’re still struggling with consent,
just imagine instead of initiating sex, you’re making them a cup of tea.
You say “hey, would you like a cup of tea?” and they go “oh my god, I would LOVE a cup of tea! Thank you!” then you know they want a cup of tea.
If you say “hey, would you like a cup of tea?” and they’re like “um I’m not really
sure…” then you can make them a cup of tea or not, but be aware that they might not
drink it, and if they don’t drink it then – then and this is the important part –  don’t
make them drink it. Just because you made it doesn’t mean you are entitled to watch
them drink it. And If they say “No thank you” then don’t
make them tea. At all. Just don’t make them tea, don’t make them drink tea, don’t
get annoyed at them for not wanting tea. They just don’t want tea, ok?
They might say “Yes please, that’s kind of you” and then when the tea arrives they
actually don’t want the tea at all. Sure, that’s kind of annoying as you’ve gone to
all the effort of making the tea, but they remain under no obligation to drink the tea.
They did want tea, now they don’t. Some people change their mind in the time it takes
to boil that kettle, brew the tea and add the milk. And it’s ok for people to change
their mind, and you are still not entitled to watch them drink.
And If they are unconscious, don’t make them tea. Unconscious people don’t want
tea and can’t answer the question “do you want tea” because they’re are unconscious.
Ok, maybe they were conscious when you asked them if they wanted tea, and they said yes,
but in the time it took you to boil that kettle, brew the tea and add the milk they
are now unconscious. You should just put the tea down, make sure the unconscious person
is safe, and this is the important part again – don’t make them drink the tea. They
said yes then, sure, but unconscious people don’t wanttea.
If someone said yes to tea, started drinking it, and then passed out before they’d finished
it, don’t keep on pouring it down their throat. Take the tea away and make sure they
are safe.  Because unconscious people don’t want tea. Trust me on this.
If someone said “yes” to tea around your house last Saturday, that doesn’t mean that
they want you to make them tea all the time. They don’t want you to come around unexpectedly
to their place and make them tea and force them to drink it going “BUT YOU WANTED TEA
LAST WEEK”, or to wake up to find you pouring tea down their throat going “BUT YOU WANTED
TEA LAST NIGHT”. If you can understand how completely ludicrous
it is to force people to have tea when they don’t wanttea, and you are able to understand
when people don’t want tea, then how hard is it to understand it when it comes to sex?
Whether it’s tea or sex, Consent Is Everything. And on that note, I am going to make myself
a cup of tea.

100 thoughts on “Tea Consent

  1. When I made a collab with Storybooth, I compared religion to ice cream because I said don’t force it down my throat. There are different kinds of ice cream just like there are different religions and some not everyone thinks the same flavor is right for them, but that doesn’t mean we should judge each other. I guess food metaphors are the best way to go.

  2. My teacher put this on in class nd it went “FUCK YEAH ID LOVE A FUCKING CUP OF TEA” my teacher shit himself 😂

  3. i dont believe in withdrawing consent. if you say yes. drink the tea and halfway through the cup dont want to drink the tea. well too bad youre gunna finish it.

  4. You wont believe that my school showed this to our year in a formal assembly! The whole Year started laughing and to this day is remembered.

  5. My teacher one time played this during class and she was a sweet teacher and innocent, so when they said “FUCK YEAH!” She freaked out and screamed

  6. So when he says that hes gonna go have a cup of tea at the end of the video, does that mean hes going to have a delicious cup of tea, or is he going to go have sex?

  7. This is the absolute BEST video ever. It should be shown to every kid going into high school, college and graduate school. Female and male. There is no way to miss understand it. Just because they wanted tea last week, doesn't mean they want tea today and don't get mad at them for not wanting tea. They are just not in the mood for tea. AWESOME! It should be shown every year at the beginning of school.

  8. Couldn’t this be used with anything…watch…imagine your throwing them a grenade but they don’t want the grenade then you put the grenade in there hand hand duct tape it shut

  9. my therapist had me watch this after i was assaulted because i was having trouble coping and understanding i didnt give consent, as i was asleep and had let him pet my hair. this really helps victims thank you

  10. Sometime people start drinking tea and then don't want it anymore. It's a person's right to change his/her mind and say no stop. Don't pressure or force then to continue drinking tea!

  11. What if they totally want a cup of tea, chug that tea, say how great the tea was, tell their friends they fucking loved that tea, then sometime between the next day and 15 years later they decided they didn't want that tea and accuse you of pouring the tea down their throat.

  12. So when a guy sends a dick pic is that like showing them a box of tea and saying "do you want some D?" in this analogy? Cus that seems pretty fucked up, not gonna lie.

    Just don't have sex kids. Act like normal millennials and end your genetic line. Whenever you think about asking a girl out just go home and jerk off instead. You'll be much happier later that evening when you're not being rejected because you didn't try.

  13. If someone invites a person over for tea and biscuits and are expressly enjoying themselves and you offer them another and they hesitantly say no because they dont want others to think they are a pig for eating too many or say no for whatever reason although you can tell they'd enjoy another and you offer them another one. Does that person have the right to be mad? DId the person feeding the tea and biscuits do something bad?

  14. And if you make tea with interesting or strange creamers and add-ins in it, always tell the person beforehand and make sure they are okay with that.

  15. If you ask, "would you like a cup of tea?" and they say, "Why would you ask me that, you pervert? I'm calling the police!" then they're probably overreacting, and a simple "no" would have sufficed. If, however, you asked "would you like to have sex?" then the above reaction is a lot more reasonable, and you should tread very lightly. For that matter, you should have already treaded more lightly before asking for sex. And for the love of God, DO NOT rape there person who rejected you.

  16. こういうの学校で流せ。先生も楽だろ言葉選ばんでもええし座っとるだけでええから

  17. Lmao this was played during college orientation and she panicked and scrammed to pause when he said "omg fuck yeah I want some fucking tea"

  18. Big meme at school cause they played this on announcements also if you think of sex like tea that's like even worse cause like, tea is more common we're gonna be like yeah yeah sex to drink 3 times a day

  19. So instead of making the subject matter more clear, precise and concrete, you chose to use a loose metaphor which makes things more confusing, more open to interpretation and more abstract. This is bad. You are bad at this.

  20. Yea cause Rapists don't understand what consent is, yea sure… We all know what fucking consent is, rapists don't give a fuck

  21. If someone hates tea and likes coffee, say, but you force feed them tea every day, if you decide to be a bit more humane, so give them less tea to drink, that still doesn't mean they have to drink the tea.

  22. I love this. It should be shown in all High Schools and Universities too, for that matter. It should be shown to EVERYONE, especially boys! We've shown our High School kids and they totally get it. It's simple and makes sense and, the best thing is that they remember it. Brilliant!

  23. If I dont consent to be governed, I get arrested. If I dont agree with a law. for instance smoking weed, it doesnt matter if I personally consent, I must consent. How does the government get my consent?? Easy, they dont, you are forced to follow, you dont get asked. So maybe we need different words?

  24. They showed us the clean version in Citizenship today, it is a good analogy! And remember guys, unconcious people don't want tea.

  25. Another important note is that some people just prefer coffee. This is normal and fine. But they dont want tea. They have no interest tea so you shouldnt pressure them to drink it. Nor should you shame, dehumanize, or try to convince them that its unnatural to like coffee

  26. 2:20 Not actually always true – it was actually a major fantasy of my partners to wake up to find me "pouring tea down his throat" and one I helped him live – he loved it.

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